Ah, summer time! I love it when the weather warms up, the snow stops and the trees and grass get green. I plant my flowers. Lots and lots of flowers! I also enjoy this time of year because things tend to slow down at work and I get caught up with my pile of book reading and projects around the house. It seems like I’m able to take better care of myself, too, during the longer days. Why does self-care matter and how does making time for ourselves bring us better life conditions?
Michele Promaulayko, the author of 20 Pounds Younger, states, “Self-care has become such a buzzy concept, but it truly is critical to overall health. As I have gotten older, emotional health has become a bigger and bigger focus. I look around and see so many people who have mistaken physical attractiveness for wellness…they work out strenuously and eat healthfully to look a certain way, but are riddled with anxiety or other emotional challenges because they haven’t spent enough time on their emotional well-being.”
I’m sure you’ve seen it in yourself and others when we allow ourselves to get run down by working too much or hanging around negative people…my papa used to call them ‘psychic vampires’ because they just drain the energy right out of you! Sometimes we are not asking for the help we need – if this resonates with you, I highly recommend Cheryl Richardson’s great book and video, The Art of Extreme Self-Care. Cheryl says, “Through self-care, we become conscious and conscientious people. We tell the truth. We make choices from a place of love and compassion instead of guilt and obligation.”
I’ve watched my friends and family who neglect their own needs and forget to nurture themselves; they are unhappy, usually have lower self-esteem, and show feelings of resentment. When we don’t revitalize ourselves, we run the risk of being less patient, less kind, and less helpful when we are trying to be of service to others. Accommodating other people can be joyful and rewarding but we all need the reciprocity of giving and receiving in our lives. Because our life is an echo of the thoughts we think and the emotions we feel, it makes sense that we need balance if we are to feel good and attract good things into our lives.
As we enjoy the new season, let’s focus our attention on the things we want in life (not on the things we don’t want), do more of what we love and put a priority on how we want to feel. What intentions would you like to set for an awesome summer? Some of the ideas below may inspire your imagination:
- We train other people how to treat us – vow to set healthy boundaries
- Remain centered and not react as much to outside events and people
- Say NO to a party or gathering when you would rather stay in
- Spend more time with water – take a bath, go to the pool, skinny dip in the lake!
- Show support for those in our lives but limit our exposure to their drama
- Make time for spiritual reading – it really does make a difference
- Say NO when asked to be on another committee – agree to help in a way that honors the project and your precious time
- Balance free time being alone as well as hanging out with wonderful people
- Replace a recurring negative thought with a better-feeling thought
As a personal boundary example, I’m fascinated by politics and I have two TV shows I watch. But I have vowed to keep my indulgence to two hours a day because if I don’t, I lose valuable time and my positive vibration suffers. So I set my intention daily to being informed but not consumed!
We can all attract the conditions we want in life. I firmly believe that the circumstances of our lives and our emotional health depend on the boundaries we set and the self-respect we master. Visualize the outcome that you want and continually work on the willingness to receive what you have asked for. Really feel what it would be like to have what you want in life. This sets the magic of the Universe in motion!
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