I got a lot out of this book and by me sharing some of the insights you may decide to obtain The Desire Map for yourself. Danielle LaPorte describes how instead of talking about external goals, she started to pay attention to how she wanted to FEEL in the various parts of her life. “In that simple question lay a new way of living life, which subtly and slowly led to profound changes in the way I went about getting things done. I officially gave up goal-setting systems, which eventually led to quitting to-do lists, which led to giving up the time-management systems that were totally stressing me out. Revelation dawning. Focusing on desired feelings = liberated energy. I was onto something.”
I can totally relate. At almost 45 years old, I have spent the last twenty years of my life trying to push myself to do more and be more. I generally get a thrill checking off items on my list and then pat myself on the back for the discipline. But in the last year it has been different and Danielle points to what I have been experiencing. “People are craving a new way to make things happen in their lives. Less driving and more inspiration. Deeper meaning but without compromising prosperity. More love and way less judgment.”
Yes! It’s not that I don’t want to achieve things in my life and progress, it’s just that I no longer want to achieve something just because of external factors like money, approval, promotion, etc.
Danielle says we have the procedures of achievement upside down. “Typically we come up with our to-do lists, our bucket lists, and our strategic plans – all the stuff we want to have, get, accomplish, and experience outside of ourselves. All of those aspirations are being driven by an innate desire to feel a certain way. So what if, first, we got clear on how we actually wanted to feel within ourselves, and then we designed our to-do lists, set our goals, and wrote out our bucket list?
How do you want to feel when you look at your schedule for the week?
When you get dressed in the morning?
When you walk through the door of your studio or office?
When you pick up the phone?
When you cash the check, accept the award, finish your masterpiece, make the sale, or fall in love?
How do you want to feel?
Knowing how you actually want to feel is the most potent form of clarity that you can have. Generating those feelings is the most powerfully creative thing you can do with your life.”
For me, I just wasn’t getting motivated to build my business Dianne Loraine with goals related to money, how many books sold or how many followers I have. Approaching my creative dream by external factors felt backwards and inauthentic. So instead I started to focus on how I wanted to feel when I did keynotes and led workshops with groups of people. How do I want to feel running my business full time and traveling and meeting new people? Well, I want to feel inspired, purposeful, peaceful, adventurous, alive, balanced, playful, centered, energized, fascinated, grateful, harmonious, joyful. Now that kind of life I can get impassioned about! And when I focus on how I want my desire to feel, I have no issues with getting into action. It feels great!
Danielle says, “You need to have Soul-centered goals, you need to go about fulfilling those goals in life-affirming ways. Presently, I don’t have goals. Rather, I have things that I’d really love to have happen. I have desires. And I have intentions to fulfill those desires. But I’ve almost fully retired from chasing things.”
She goes on to say that you need desire to be fully alive. You need vision to fulfill your desires. “The more honest I got with myself about what I was longing for, the less necessary goals seemed. So I don’t have hard goals anymore – at least not the kind you can quantify. I do however have all-consuming desires and intentions that drive me daily – all of which are aligned with my core desired feelings.”
To learn more about Danielle, go to her website: http://www.daniellelaporte.com/